Let’s talk about love.
Instagram, twitter, and these pictures that people add quotes to about love have fooled you. Social media has encouraged you to be lazy when it comes to love.
Love is NOT easy.
Love is not simple.
It is terrifying.
It is the most amazing thing you can ever experience but it takes work.
Let me tell you the real about love….
Let me begin by saying that there are many stages to love and all of them are not pretty. My generation has been taught to give up on relationships if it doesn’t equal out to an Instagram/Twitter #RelationshipGoals hashtag. In the beginning you and your lover are on a high everything about your partner fascinates you and it is interesting to learn this new person and understand them and enjoy them. The honey moon stage can last for awhile and that is good if it does but what happens when you’ve been with your partner for awhile and that honey moon stage has disappeared? Well that, my friends, is when work becomes an important factor in your relationship. And it is called work because it can possibly be difficult to attempt to recapture the butterflies that you had in the beginning. but with effort and dedication from both people you will get there.
Lets pause here for a second to be clear on one thing…..
Love takes equal effort on both parts. You are amazing. Don’t you dare end up in a situation where you are in love alone. If your partner is not willing to work just as hard as you to make your relationship long lasting and full of happiness and joy….for your peace of mind, self love and sanity….please walk away.
I have seen so many times before that after the honey moon stage is over people believe that the relationship is done and move on to the next person. And truth be told, if that was the case in any of your past relationships it was never really love to begin with. In relationships sometimes we forget how valuable our significant other is or the importance of the bond you two have built.
You two have to really work to make sure that your are appreciating the person you are loving and if problems arise, do everything in your power to find solutions. And I am not speaking of microwave solutions that can be fixed in a day or two. For example, when I say work, I mean that sometimes it might take months, sometimes longer to regain your partner’s trust. But you’re doing everything in your power to be better for him/her and to gain that trust and that is the work needed to successfully survive real love.
So don’t be lazy when it comes to loving someone. None of that microwave, mediocre, temporary love bullsh*t. No one deserves that. Give your all. Give everything you have and if you’re with the right person they will do the same for you.
If done right….you will understand that constant mutual selflessness, sensitivity, communication and forgiveness is needed. Your happiness becomes their happiness and their happiness becomes yours. There is this balance achieved and you two are happily in love. And every storm you once had to go through made your bond stronger and worth it all. Because you both understand that there is no laziness in love. It should be taken seriously and handled with care. Love isn’t to be played with or thrown around for a like or two on Instagram. Love isn’t watered down.
In conclusion, (<—learned to end my rants like this in high school lol) It is true that nothing good lasts forever but this means that there will be bad times too. The thing about bad times is that they always pass. Learn to love, support and be there for your partner through bad times, the same way you are during the good…that, my friend, is love worth having.
So if you believe in something that you have with someone special work through it. Don’t give up. Love becomes a war and instead of you fighting your partner you two should be on the same side fighting like hell to pull through.
Peace. Love. Hopee….